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Saturday, November 24, 2007

Comfort food: Pizza

I'm not referring to pizza parlour fare. The pizza I'm talking about is the 'tread lightly on your tummy' variety that always gets rave reviews from the harshest of food critics: children.

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Pizza with Italian tomatoes and buffalo mozzarella.

Monday, November 19, 2007

Growing up Italian, Part II

By Luna (aka Terri Giosia)

As the yelling continued I got up and went out on the balcony to have a cigarette. Her parents already considered me a bad influence but tolerated me as my nonna and one of their aunts were friends.

Smoking was considered taboo as was wearing black at our age, as only ladies of the night wore black or women in mourning.

So I did a few things that were not very kosher with the Italians in my neighbourhood, and yet my dad was extremely strict, but with the influence of my mom, I could go to the dances, wore black, smoked in front of my mom (thank God!!!) had a curfew of course, and my dad was actually the one who drove us to where we had to go and ensured that we all had money to take a cab home afterwards.

Boys on the other hand could come and go as they pleased. They drove their dad’s car by the age of 16, (yes they actually drove with a temporary license and no one said a word!!!)

No rules, no curfew, nothing to explain, and a male in the Italian household treated like royalty. They didn’t have to make their bed, pick up their smelly clothes, nor did they have to be around when visitors came by. They learned early that women cooked, cleaned, served them and kept quiet while they went out, it really was “ask me no questions, I’ll tell you no lies” type of upbringing.

Girls on the other hand learned to do all of the above, stuck around when “zia Tina” came by with her brats and on top of all that, had a myriad of other “do not’s” engraved into their minds. So for many women they ended up carrying so much guilt and rules driven into them by the age of 20 that it would take years in their 30’s and 40’s to undo.

And unfortunately for many women they never got to undo the damage, they just swallowed it like Buckley’s, it tasted awful, but you said nothing!

The yelling now was mixed with crying, Angie broke down. I didn’t dare go in, so I stayed outside and lit another cigarette.

My mind wandered to a few weeks ago, while I was having supper at their house and my friend Angie asked her dad, “Why can Gino stay out till 2 am, and I can’t even stay out till 10?” He answered, “becuz Gino can’t get pregnant!” I thought to myself, “ya but he’s doing something with someone’s daughter, and I’m sure she’s getting the same speech from her dad!” but of course I never uttered those words at 17 but I told Angie that later and she said that she had never thought about that before.

Stay tuned for part III

Monday, November 12, 2007

My journey to the homeland

By Luna, a.k.a. Terri Giosia

About 13 years ago I went to Italy for the first time, the experience was both eye opening and mind boggling as I had my own ideologies regarding the real “Italians” from the homeland and how different from those living in North America.

So at 32, for the first time I ventured alone to the homeland, with hundred of stories that my father had been filling my mind with since I was a child.

Friday, November 09, 2007

Rogue Reiki Master

I'm a Usui Reiki Master, of some pretty impressive lineage it is 7 years now. My biggest criticism of the whole Reiki thing is the cost. There is an association out there that claims a Reiki attunement costs $10 000USD. That's right, ten grand can buy you healing powers.

Enter Steve Murray.

He has been called a rogue, a maverick, a disgrace to Reiki Masters everywhere. Why? I'll tell you why. When I became a Reiki Master the whole deal was shrouded in mystery and the theory to be frank was filled with a lot of history, anecdotal accounts and just plain, nothing. The coveted symbols were to be kept secret. That is, only initiates were granted knowledge of these secret healing symbols. Affluent initiates. Only the rich were worthy.

Steve Murray changed all that forever. He's out there sharing it all. In his books he explains the symbols and shares all so-called secrets while at the same time dispelling the myths and untruths. I haven't checked out his DVD's yet, but other Reiki Masters have and you can read their reviews on Amazon.com.

I think he's a hero.

Although on Rue's Kitchen I rag on the the internet attunements and the hodge-podge healing modalities people claim to practice, I am not referring to Steve Murray. My informed and experienced opinion is that although his books and DVD's will never replace the hands-on experience and relationship between a Master and their apprentice, the information he is propagating is solid. So much so that I have ditched all my previous teaching materials and will be rewriting them the way I want to teach them and I will be using Murray's writings as references.

I paid to be attuned to the Master Level. I paid $1000. Although it is a fraction of the recommended/enforced by assorted Reiki associations, it was still too steep. I have never charged anything remotely resembling that and frankly I refuse to.

When it comes to practicing a natural/spiritual/energy healing modality, choose one modality and specialize in it. I can't tell you how many times I've recoiled in both disgust and ridicule at those self-proclaimed healers/practitioners who take out a half-page ad in those free new age rags commonly found at health food stores where the list of modalities they claim to specialize in is the length of my forearm. Puh-lease. Reading a book or attending a workshop does not make you an expert in any subject (no matter what the piece of coloured paper they handed you on the way out says). Formal, orthodox training of some kind, discipline and years of practice, research, hands-on experience, and above all the willingness to grow and change, THAT is what makes a true healer.

In closing I would like to say that divine healing is free to all who ask it regardless of 'training' or otherwise. Anyone who has ever prayed will tell you the same thing.

So, now that I've gone on my litte diatribe, tell me... what do you think? smile

Monday, November 05, 2007

Growing up Italian

By Luna (aka Terri Giosia)

Sitting on my girlfriend’s chaise longue enjoying a Dubonnet on ice, I was filled with pride and satisfaction for her as we were about to celebrate a recent promotion that was long over due within a company that had never given a woman the position of Vice President before.

Her living room was one of true class and understated beauty in colours of beige, burnt orange and chocolate brown. Lighting a forbidden cigarette (I was the only one she allowed to smoke in her place) my eyes moved to a glassed armoire filled with family portraits. I got up, moving closer as the pictures came to life and I with every step I took it’s as if I was being taken back in time.

Sunday, November 04, 2007

What the…

fuck happened to his face?

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Friday, November 02, 2007

Hymn to Love

I miss my Zia today. I wish I could pick up the phone to talk to her. She passed away over a year and a half ago. We used to watch a tv show together on sunday mornings when I was little where they would put the artists' portraits up and play their music. This was one of our favourites and we always sang it.

Maybe I should mention that for those of you who don't know, today is All Souls Day and it is the day in the year where I feel the presence of my dearly-departed the most strongly, thus I feel the loss and the distance most profoundly. It is also a time when I feel the most raw... the most alive.

I can't imagine anyone not knowing who the little sparrow is but just in case here's the link to Édith Piaf's Wikipedia entry.



The grammar in the translations below is a little clumsy, but it's all heart. Excuse me while I go have a good cry.

About This Video
Hymne à L'Amour - Armot Films / Holidays In Par...
Hymne à L'Amour - Armot Films / Holidays In Paris
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[TRADUÇÃO LIVRE PARA O PORTUGUÊS]

Hino ao amor

Letra: Edith Piaf
Música: Marguerite Monnot

O céu azul sobre nós pode desabar
E a terra bem pode desmoronar
Pouco me importa, se tu me amas
Pouco se me dá o mundo inteiro

Desde que o amor inunde minhas manhãs
Desde que meu corpo esteja fremindo sob tuas mãos
Pouco me importam os problemas
Meu amor, já que tu me amas.

Eu irei até o fim do mundo
Mandarei pintar meu cabelo de louro
(ou: Me transformarei em loura)
Se tu me pedires
Irei despendurar a lua
Irei roubar a fortuna
Se tu me pedires

Eu renegarei minha pátria
Renegarei meus amigos
Se tu me pedires
Bem podem rir de mim
Farei o que quer que seja
Se tu me pedires

Se um dia a vida te arrancar de mim
Se tu morreres, se estiveres longe de mim
Pouco me importa, se tu me amas,
Porque eu morrerei também

Teremos para nós a eternidade,
No azul de toda a imensidão
No céu não haverá mais problemas
Meu amor, acredite que nos amamos.
Deus reúne os que se amam.
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Thanks "iiris22" for the English translation:

The blue sky can tumble down upon us
And the earth can also collapse
It doesn't matter, if you love me
I don't care about the entire world
As long as love floods my mornings
As long as my body trembles beneath your hand
These problems don't matter
My love, since you love me

I would go to the end of the earth
I would dye my hair blonde
I would go take down the moon
I would go steal a fortune
If you asked it of me
I would disown my country
I would disown my friends
If you asked it of me
People can have a good laugh at me
I would do anything
If you asked it of me

If one day life tears you from me
If you die that you be far from me
It doesn't matter, if you love me
Because, me, I will die also
We will have eternity for ourselves
In the great blue immensity
In the sky, no more problems
My love, do you believe we love each other
God reunites those who love each other
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Here are the original lyrics as sung in the video above:

L'hymne à l'Amour

Paroles: Edith Piaf. Musique: Marguerite Monnot 1949
autres interprètes: Armand Mestral, Michel Chaineaud, Marcel Merkés, Mireille Mathieu, Johnny Hallyday, Georgette Lemaire


Le ciel bleu sur nous peut s'effondrer
Et la terre peut bien s'écrouler
Peu m'importe si tu m'aimes
Je me fous du monde entier
Tant qu'l'amour inond'ra mes matins
Tant que mon corps frémira sous tes mains
Peu m'importent les problèmes
Mon amour puisque tu m'aimes

J'irais jusqu'au bout du monde
Je me ferais teindre en blonde
Si tu me le demandais
J'irais décrocher la lune
J'irais voler la fortune
Si tu me le demandais

Je renierais ma patrie
Je renierais mes amis
Si tu me le demandais
On peut bien rire de moi
Je ferais n'importe quoi
Si tu me le demandais

Si un jour la vie t'arrache à moi
Si tu meurs que tu sois loin de moi
Peu m'importe si tu m'aimes
Car moi je mourrai aussi
Nous aurons pour nous l'éternité
Dans le bleu de toute l'immensité
Dans le ciel plus de problèmes
Mon amour crois-tu qu'on s'aime
Dieu réunit ceux qui s'aiment

Monday, October 29, 2007

Double standards in the Italian household

By Luna (Terri Giosia)

Strange as it is to use these words in this day and age yet they are forever etched in the minds of Italians no matter how old or what the generation is.

Yes, Italians are encouraging their girls to get an education, yet in the deep recesses of their minds they still throw in the adage that “find a man; he’ll take care of you”.

What does that mean anymore? Who’s taking care of whom? Ever notice it’s mostly the woman that taking care of the household, pay the bills, run errands, groceries, and yet “he’s taking care of you”. As he’s at the bar, drinking coffee, playing “billiardini” laughing it up with his friends, or maybe even sliding the salami where he shouldn’t be.

And this is what Italians want for their daughters, better this, than being over 30 and unmarried. Yes, for Italians this is the “vergonia” they feel for their daughters who are unmarried, over 30 and God forbid living on their own! Because that would mean you may be entertaining men, enjoying life and creating juicy gossip. I say, “Who cares!” But that’s me, coming from a mixed background being half Italian and thanking God that I had the influence of an “Anglo” background.

It’s amazing to me as I realize not much has changed, for the men are doing what they want, when they want. With pride the parents feel their son’s a real “stallion” and being careless with revealing information on who they’ve done and how many times. (Never realizing the women they are with, are someone’s daughter). Yet the daughters are being drilled to being “virtuous” as a man does not like damaged goods. (What an archaic term, yet used in many households).

The only damage I see is what the Italian parents have done to their daughter’s self esteem! Shame and guilt run rampant with Italian women; I see it all too often as a coach many of my clients are Italian women in the 40’s. Strangely enough they’ve got teenage sons and daughters and are doing the same thing that was done to them some 25 years ago.

When does it end? How does it change? With all change comes fear of the unknown, being a pariah or just laziness in thinking that somebody else will do it. It’s about taking a stand and not leaving it for others to take care of. It’s about teaching kids that respect and integrity are vital for both men and women and when you choose to have sex do it because you want to and feel that you’re ready to enjoy and are mature enough to take responsibility in that it is because it’s a natural part of living and enjoying another person.

What am I thinking? This will take generations and even then….the double standard will always exist. Have we come far as women, to some degree and yet so much remains the same in the deep recesses of people’s minds.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

From my Halloween Cookbook…

I didn't make in time this year otherwise the compilation of my favourite Halloween recipes would have been available for purchase on Lulu.com. Truth be told, I could have made it, cutting it close, if I had had the time and especially patience to figure out how to upload my text to their site. Oh well, perhaps next year.

I myself am lactose intolerant and I admit that I push the envelope quite a bit by popping lactase capsules, but every now and then I go a little too far. Currently I am experiencing a little body flare-up resulting in round the clock heartburn. Therefore I've had to cut the dairy right out. This does not preclude me from knowing that the following is a very nice recipe. Simple, balanced, comfort food.

APPLE CHEESE SPREAD

INGREDIENTS

1 8 oz. pkg. cream cheese, softened
1 c. grated cheddar cheese (I love extra-old cheddar. Roquefort is a nice twist instead of cheddar as well. Use whatever you like!)
1/4 c. sour cream
dash of sugar
pinch of salt
pinch of cinnamon
pinch of black pepper
1 c. chopped apple with peel
1/2 c. chopped celery
1/2 c. chopped pecans
1/4 c. diced red onion


PREPARATION

Mix together the cream cheese and cheddar cheese until well blended. I like using my Kitchen Aid mixer and paddle attachment for this. Add remaining ingredients and mix well. Serve with crackers and fresh vegetables.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Who’s that girl?

image I found this old pic today after having tucked it away a couple years ago maybe, not remembering where I had placed it. It was shot by my dearest Luna after an evening of too many drinks and too many smokes. It was a hot summer night and I got the goofy idea to throw a scarf around my head and pop my shades on and have my picture taken. The year was 1997, and what a year it was! Just a couple months prior to the photo I had junked my creepy ex-husband and met the man of my dreams. Seemed like a dream or a fairy-tale, but it wasn't, because ten years later, I'm still living the dream. But that's not the point of this post.

When my dad died in 2000 although I didn't want to acknowledge/accept/whatever it, something in me did snap. The obvious is facing my own mortality, but more than that I became fearful. Fearful. I then began to draw into my life all the the things I feared the most. The New Age mantra of what we focus on augments is not lost on me at the moment that I am writing this but... it was lost on me for the longest time. I'm not "The Secret" type by any stretch of the imagination, altough I have been known to rock the old school New Age shit pretty hard. I digress.

I'm no longer the person in this picture. I don't look like her, act like her, think like her or even feel like her. I have lost my way. I think it's time she set me straight. I owe her everything. She was strong. She was brave. She was FEARLESS. If it weren't for her working so hard becoming me, I don't know who I would be. I'm glad she came to visit me tonight. She has made me see that in fact, I have the power to choose fearlessness once again.

Happiness is letting go of fear. Love is perfection.

I think I'm going to be okay now.

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I am Rue of Rue's Kitchen.
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