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Wednesday, February 19, 2003

Getting rid of “toxic” situations and people? What does THAT mean?

Once in a while I come across self-appointed gurus who think they are doing themselves and their followers a service by propagating the following:

Meditations to get rid of "toxic" situations and people...

This is not only weak, it's ignorantly over-simplified. Here's why:

Being spiritual is not about ridding yourself of people or ending relationships that you suddenly decide no longer fit. This sounds more like a cult tactic than self-actualization, I think.

The true work is about letting go of your unrealistic expectations. Cutting ties is about releasing your emotional, psychological and sometimes physical grasp of unwanted, unhelpful, unnecessary and unhealthy ties between yourself and people, places or to some degree, things. It's about letting go so that you can take responsibility for yourself. It's about letting go of bad feelings. It is also about continuing to love unconditionally. Cutting ties is not about withdrawing your love and friendship from other people or dismissing the other person.

It is about restoring the energy balance to that of unconditional love.

It is about letting go and accepting people, places and things as they are and not only as you want them to be.

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